God's Faithfulness, Parenting, Relationships

We All Need Words to Pray

Sometimes I just don’t know how to pray for someone. Sometimes my prayers have gaps. (See here.)

Along the way, I learned that turning to hymns can help.

Be Thou my vision, O Lord of my heart;

Naught be all else to me save that Thou art;

Thou my best thought by day or by night;

Waking or sleeping Thy presence my light.

Translated by Eleanor Hull 1912

During one prayer time, my friend Katie and I prayed Be Thou My Vision for each of our children. She recently reminded me that I had prayed it for her.

Be Thou (Name’s) vision O Lord of (her/his) heart;

Naught be all else to (her/him) save that thou art.

Thou (her/his) best thought by day or by night.

Waking or sleeping Thy presence (Name’s) light.

A few times we prayed a Psalm for our children, inserting their names.

No matter how lacking my prayers, the good news is that I’m not on my own. Jesus intercedes for me (Hebrews 7:25 and Romans 8:34) as well as the Holy Spirit (Romans 8:26)

Do you have a favorite Psalm or hymn to pray?

God's Faithfulness, Relationships

Auld Lang Syne

2024 was a hard year as my family walked alongside hurting loved ones. 2025 was worse. More loved ones struggled. Two left this earth. Unimaginable hardships. Sharp dips in my own health.

This led to reduced Christmas activities. One exception? We sang more, and we’re still singing.

Another exception? I sent over one hundred Christmas cards. I haven’t sent cards since 2020. One result? A phone call from a faraway high school friend I hadn’t spoken with in decades. She wanted to hear my voice. We talked from 8:00 pm that Saturday night until 1:38 am the next morning.

Windchimes my friend sent after our conversation.

On January 2nd, my husband, son, and I sang Auld Lang Syne—translated days gone by in standard English. It was a first. Our holiday songbooks are usually packed away before January. Auld Lang Syne is a Scottish song. The first line means for the sake of old times. 

2024 and 2025 were years of Auld Lang Syne. Because of our shared history—for the sake of old times—we connected with and walked alongside dear ones we hadn’t seen much or recently.

We’ll take a cup of kindness yet for Auld Lang Syne.

God's Faithfulness, Relationships

Being Angry on My Behalf

I’m angry that happened to you. I’m angry for you.

I was comforted by those words after someone asked for a favor and then used that favor to steal from me. I told a friend, “Sometimes we need to be angry on someone’s behalf.”

“Is that always a good idea she questioned?” I thought so until I read Gentle and Lowly.

As you consider those who have wronged you, let Jesus be angry on your behalf. His anger can be trusted.

Gentle and Lowly by Dane C. Ortlund

Wow! And it’s true. My experience proves that. As I look back, I can recount how God has defended me and not let the wrongdoers prosper—although it may take decades to see the judgement.

I’ve thought about and blogged on this quote before. (See here.) I bring it up again, because the holidays are a time to be blessed and a time to be hurt and a time to let Jesus be angry on your behalf.

Refrain from anger, and forsake wrath! Fret not yourself; it only tends to evil. Psalm 37:8 (ESV)

God's Faithfulness, Relationships

God’s Truthfulness

God is not man, that he should lie, or a son of man, that he should change his mind.

Numbers 23:19a (ESV)

These days, what I’m learning along the way is a deeper appreciation of God’s attributes. (See here and here.)

I spent too much time around a couple of liars. Charming little liars who can tell lies that seem plausible. They’ve not only kept me guessing which course to take but have also convinced others to take the wrong course. Troubled has abounded.

Of course, God doesn’t keep me guessing if he is telling the truth or convince me to take the wrong course. I’ve known that so long that I take God’s truthfulness for granted. However, as I experienced the opposite too many times for too many days, my appreciation for God’s character was awakened and deepened.

As my concern and frustration were laughed off—apparently, telling lies is an innocent, routine way of having fun—I also appreciated that God takes truth seriously.

The LORD detests lying lips, but he delights in people who are trustworthy. Proverbs 12:22 (ESV)

Decisions, God's Faithfulness

Appreciating God’s Immutability

Allow disillusionment with man to turn you to the love and faithfulness of God.

James Boice, Come To the Waters

I recently experienced the truth of Boice’s words when someone’s vacillating during the summer led me to a new appreciation of God’s unchangeable character, standards, and expectations.

Serving someone whose mind changed daily—or within a day—was frustrating and trust-breaking. With God, I will never be told

Did I say that? I forgot. It’s not what I wanted you to do today.

I didn’t say that. I said a variation of that.

That was what I wanted, but the children don’t like my rule so you should have disregarded it.

I’m too tired to enforce my standards.

Okay, the last was not said aloud but inferred.

I learned about God’s immutability over half a century ago. but now it is deeper in my heart. I’ve depended on God never changing his mind with regard to his eternal promises. Now I understand deeply the value of God not changing for a single second.

For I the LORD do not change; therefore you, O children of Jacob, are not consumed. Malachi 3:6