“You are not behaving like someone who is loved as much as you are loved.”
After my boys were in college, I heard this response to a child’s behavior. I forgot the source, but not the sentence.
Along the way, I decided that while the sentence is a powerful response to behavior, it is not helpful for change, unless followed by a second question. “Why?”
Why do people, especially our children, not behave like someone who is loved as much as they are loved? I have pondered that even more as grown children express their frustrations. I have two answers
We are either not showing love or they are not feeling the love we are showing. I suspect the latter most often.
Are you feeling loved?