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Take a Survey

August 25th, 2020
Mollie T. Cox

Sometimes my decisions depended my children’s momentary interests or their current stamina. How could I acquire this information without giving an unhealthy impression of who was in charge of our family? I took surveys when the boys were young.

I would say, “This is not a vote. I am making the decision. It is a survey, which will influence my decision. Would you boys rather go to the park and have a picnic by the lake or have a picnic in the backyard and have time to bike later?” “Would you rather unload the dishwasher or help Daddy outside?”

Depending on your child’s age, you might need to explain that a survey is a research method used to collect specific information from particular people. Car manufacturers conduct surveys to determine which features car buyers expect on new cars.

One adult son used this technique on me when he needed outpatient surgery. One recovery option was for me to make a six-hour, round trip drive and bring him to our family home for recovery. “This is not a vote,” he began. “It is a survey. Would you rather I recovered here or ….”

How do you receive necessary input for your decisions?

Decisions

Simple Solutions (Reprise)

August 19th, 2020
Mollie T. Cox

Twenty-six years ago, our garden was important and the rabbits and squirrels and birds were our challenge. The deer joined them when a new subdivision was built.

We enjoyed our garden so much that we didn’t give up when the critters started eating all of our strawberries—yes, every single one. However, when eventually the tomatoes and melons were devoured, we admitted defeat.

We missed our tomatoes the most, and my sister encouraged me to grow tomatoes on our upstairs deck. I refused. I was not willing to take the risk because squirrels and birds frequented our deck.

What had I learned along the way? No matter how large the challenge, try to find a simple solution before you quit. (See Simple Solutions here.)

This year, I decided to try a simple solution for growing tomatoes. I planted marigolds. Squirrels do not like marigolds and birds tend to leave them alone.

I am still learning the value of simple solutions.

Decisions

Simple Solutions

August 16th, 2020
Mollie T. Cox

My husband sang in the church choir Wednesday nights. He loved it. My three-year-old attended a Bible program those nights. He loved it. My 18-month-old was bathed by Mommy instead of Daddy those nights. He despised it—especially the hair washing. The infant was indifferent, but especially demanding with Daddy away. Eventually, I despised Wednesday nights.

The best solution seemed to be ending the Wednesday evening activities after the Christmas program. After all, bath time with Daddy was especially significant to one son. Even more, I didn’t want a challenging evening after being home all day with three young children.

In retrospect, my husband and oldest child leaving their activities was the worst solution. They were important outlets. Bedtime routines could have been simplified. Wednesday baths could have been skipped— at least the hair washing. These solutions never occurred to me until years later. (Although they may have occurred to you as you read.)

Those days, I was too overwhelmed to find another way. What did I wish I had known and learned along the way? No matter how large the challenge, try to find a simple solution before you quit a priority.

Any simple fixes to your challenging situations?