Decisions | 100 Words

Following Other Families

September 6th, 2025
Mollie T. Cox

The great illusion of leadership is to think that man can be led out of the desert by someone who has never been there.
Henri Nouwen

I thought the perfect families and homeschoolers showcased in magazines and at conventions could show me the way. It turned out they could only give me a picture of the destination because they had never been in my parenting and homeschooling desert.

I don’t regret what I read and attended. I do regret not realizing the journey presented could not be replicated. There were many reasons. The advice-giving parents were from a different generation. They had different challenges and resources. Others had not finished their journey and so they only thought they knew the way.

As the school year geared up, and the challenges abounded, my peers and I rarely had people who could lead us. We stumbled around together and eventually made it.

Almost twenty years have passed since my sons graduated. The desert has changed during that time. As your school year progresses, may you have people to lead you and the wisdom to know who they are.

Thank you, Marie Hannah, for surviving the desert and returning to guide others.

Decisions, God's Faithfulness

Appreciating God’s Immutability

August 23rd, 2025
Mollie T. Cox

Allow disillusionment with man to turn you to the love and faithfulness of God.
James Boice, Come To the Waters

I recently experienced the truth of Boice’s words when someone’s vacillating during the summer led me to a new appreciation of God’s unchangeable character, standards, and expectations.

Serving someone whose mind changed daily—or within a day—was frustrating and trust-breaking. With God, I will never be told

Did I say that? I forgot. It’s not what I wanted you to do today.

I didn’t say that. I said a variation of that.

That was what I wanted, but the children don’t like my rule so you should have disregarded it.

I’m too tired to enforce my standards.

Okay, the last was not said aloud but inferred.

I learned about God’s immutability over half a century ago. but now it is deeper in my heart. I’ve depended on God never changing his mind with regard to his eternal promises. Now I understand deeply the value of God not changing for a single second.

For I the LORD do not change; therefore you, O children of Jacob, are not consumed. Malachi 3:6

Decisions, Priorities

What Is Big? What Is Little?

July 12th, 2025
Mollie T. Cox

It depends.

Devil’s Den was the site of a major Gettysburg Battle on July 2, 1863. However, during multiple family trips to Gettysburg beginning in the 1990s, Devil’s Den was not a “must see.”

Why?

It was a pile of stones. Seemingly, unimpressive stones.

Devil’s Den (DD), left of me, as seen from Little Round Top (LRT).

Little Round Top, the site of a major Gettysburg battle on the same date, was impressive. My family visited Little Round Top during each Gettysburg trip.

If I zoomed my camera lens while at Little Round Top, Devil’s Den had more substance.

Eventually standing on and among Devil’s Den boulders was the only way I understood how imposing the battle site was.

How little is Devil’s Den? It depends on where I’m standing.

How big is Little Round Top? It depends on where I’m standing.

LRT monuments as seen from the DD parking lot.

How big are my problems? How big are others’ problems? It depends. Am I looking from a distance or am I standing in the middle?

Are you far away or up close?

Decisions, God's Faithfulness

Accomplishing Goals

June 28th, 2025
Mollie T. Cox

I ask God every day to bring all the right things and all the right folks into my life and to help me recognize them when they show up. That’s how I built my whole life.
Dolly Parton

Dolly dreamed big dreams, but she focused on the process and what she had been given, trusting God to provide.

I don’t dream big dreams. (See here.) I don’t believe I can be whatever I want to be. (See here.)

How do I move forward with the vision I believe I’ve been given when I have doubts or become discouraged?

The past fifteen months, I was involved in two unexpected, overwhelming projects that had great impact on others and blessed me tremendously. On reflection, this scripture came to mind.

For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.
Ephesians 2:10 (ESV)

By recalling how God prepared me for these recent works—which I would not have chosen—it becomes easier to trust that I’ve been prepared for those future projects that at times seem overwhelming.

Decisions

Dream Big Dreams? No Thanks.

May 17th, 2025
Mollie T. Cox

I’ve got dreams so big they’d scare some people.
Dolly Parton

As long as your dreams don’t involve me, Dolly, go ahead and chase them. Thinking about orchestrating a big dream crushes me the same way as being encouraged to become a world-changer. (See here.)

The dreams-coming-true parts of my life were gifts from God. Many grew from small undertakings, which required the intervention of others.

Favorite books from childhood were set on Governor’s Island. My husband’s business trip made a wish-come-true visit possible.

I can’t follow the cliche of aiming for the stars in hopes of hitting the moon. Why waste my energy if all I want is the moon. I tell myself that the Wright brothers didn’t attempt a rocket in hopes of settling for an airplane.

I enjoy reading biographies of famous artists and lesser-known scientists. They worked hard and followed their passions. They were grateful for their opportunities and rejoiced when their work was successful. Few dreamed big dreams.

Do you dream big dreams like Dolly?